How to identify if u are gay (or bisexual) or not

Why do we insist on using "sexuality" rather than "gay" or "comrades" when we are discussing in science?

Sexual orientation is the translation of sexual orientation, which refers to the inner sexual orientation that is uncontrollable and can not be changed (this is the scientific definition of modern psychology). Comrade is the corresponding translation of gay, strictly speaking, refers to the same-sex tendencies and self-conscious, and has to a certain extent able to accept health, the face of people.

"Homosexual", "homosexual" these words, strictly speaking is unscientific. Because "love" "love", including a certain subjective will, and people will think that must "love" over, "love" was considered homosexual. In fact, a homosexual person, even if life has never been sex with the same sex, they also did not mean that, is still homosexual.

In recent years, scientific research has shown that in the absence of external prejudice interference, most people are 7-10 years old, to realize that they are attracted by which gender, of course, this time, generally not from the theory What is the meaning of understanding sexual orientation?

In the culture of relatively conservative culture, there are a lot of people late or even life can not be aware of their sexual orientation, some of them because of the inherent sexual orientation and external social role of incongruity, will have serious psychological problems, some And even show a serious tendency to homophobia. Some of the world famous historians who have been harshly persecuting homosexual tendencies are now homosexual.

Sexual behavior is not equal to sexual orientation

Many people mind, the sexual behavior is equivalent to the signs of sexual orientation. That if a person with sexual contact with the same sex, or involved in certain sexual behavior, it shows that he / she is same-sex tendencies. In fact, this is the sexual orientation, sexual behavior, social role confused.

Human sexual behavior, not just for birth or pleasure, but also social behavior. Healthy people, whether homosexual and heterosexual tendencies, most of them can be sex with sex. In fact, many surveys show that many heterosexual people, before and after puberty had been involved in same sex. In specific circumstances, such as the army, prison, temple, there are many heterosexual people, in order to meet the sexual desire network, involved in same sex. 

Some people call these people "pseudo homosexual", which is actually a concept that does not exist in science. These people, never the same sex tendencies, the future is not, they are only in a particular environment, through sexual behavior to get sexual satisfaction. Participation in homosexuality itself is not a criterion for judgmental tendencies.

"Like" is a very vague concept. Like can have many different meanings, if not including the above mentioned two factors, then for the judgment of the tendency is meaningless. In addition, homosexual people, not as many people understand, will hate or exclusion of the opposite sex.

In addition, some people, that judgment tendency, must be tried, this is a misunderstanding. Some people say that although I now like the same sex, but I have never done love with the opposite sex, how to know will not like the opposite sex? This is ridiculous. May wish to ask: countless heterosexual people who have not tried the same sex, how do you know will not like homosexuality?

Bisexuality

Finally, talk about the issue of bisexuality, because it is also a full of misunderstanding, prejudice and discrimination.

First of all, bisexual tendencies in the total population of scientific statistics, will make a lot of people surprised. The results of multiple sociological and psychological surveys show that the proportion of bisexual tendencies is the lowest among the three sexual tendencies, between about 1-2%. 

But in some cultures, such as China's network survey, claiming to be bisexual people, as much as 40% or so. Related to the other two fallacies, one is the so-called "everyone in the world are bisexual love", the other is "actually no real bisexual."

What are these prejudices and misunderstandings? Still because of the concept, put the sexual tendency and sexual behavior confused. Many people think that if sexual relations with both sexes, it shows that bisexual tendencies. If this standard is calculated, that ratio is far from 40%. 

Many people say that because I am a bisexual tendency, so I must have both sexes, married, confidently in the marriage and the same sex development relationship. In fact, the real bisexuality does not mean that it can be related to sex, but that can be satisfied by any one of the two sexes. 

Therefore, the reality of the real bisexual people, in a certain stage of life, is still with a homosexual or an opposite sex to establish a one-on-one solid relationship.

All three sexual orientation, are the normal expression of human nature

In civilized tolerance society, everyone has the right to live according to their own nature. Although we talk about sexual orientation may be congenital, but even a choice, it should be tolerated and accepted. As a member of a group of comrades who are discriminated against, please do not discriminate against others.